"if feminists want equality does this mean we can punch women now?" go ahead chicken shit punch me in the fucking face. i will shove your entire upper body into your own ass and make you fuck yourself from the inside out
This article, about men who desperately want to become fathers and the horrible bitches who won’t bear their offspring on demand, is like a case study in privileged entitlement. If it weren’t so painful, it would be laughable to read, for example, Neil Kirwan—a man married to a woman not ready to have children because she was just made partner at her job—asserting, “We’re in an ideal position to have kids. Financially secure—we’ve even got a four-wheel drive family car,” as if both of them wanting children isn’t required before they are genuinely in “an ideal position to have kids.”
What most struck me is that an article sympathetically presenting coercive and presumptuous wannabe dads even exists at all. Our culture is rife with negative narratives about baby-obsessed women who will go to any length to become a mother, even “trapping” men by “getting themselves pregnant.” No one writes delightful articles about how charming their desperation is, intimating that every man should be so lucky to have a good woman willing to bear children for him, and any man who denies the fulfillment of a wannabe mommy’s dream to become a parent is a selfish jerk who defies the very laws of nature.
I don’t have an obligation to be healthy, actually, and I don’t have an obligation to rush to assure you that I’m a ‘good fatty’ with great cholesterol and good scores on other health indicators allegedly related to weight. I don’t have an obligation to tell you that fat isn’t correlated with health because I shouldn’t have to justify the existence of fat people by informing you that you don’t understand how fat bodies work, and you’re not familiar with the latest studies on fatness, morbidity and mortality, health indicators, and social trends.
Because fat people have a right to exist, healthy or unhealthy, and this whole argument about health is a red herring. It suggests that if only fat people could prove that fat and health aren’t coupled, they’d be okay. Society is just concerned for us—worried that we’ll be felled too soon, taking our glorious minds into the ground with us to rot, all because we were fat and we refused to take personal responsibility for our fatness.
Here’s the thing, though: fat people have a right to exist, no matter what their health status is, and their health status is both not your business and not evidence to be used when determining whether they should be found wanting. Fatness is just a characteristic, one with which many people have a complex relationship because it’s socially loaded. Your judgement about fat has not been requested, nor is it required.
This is what happens when your friend reminds you about audio editing. I ended up lowering the pitch on Let It Go from the new Frozen movie. And I gotta say, it’s really nice. Have yourself a listen and see what I mean.
And of course I had to draw a quick genderbend for this
“Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.”—Gloria Naylor (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
You have to learn to stop treating yourself like a recipe. “A little more of this and a little less of that and add in a touch of this and then I’ll be satisfied” no. No, you are a human being made up of imperfections and things that just don’t fit quite right and that’s how it’s supposed to be….
“It is never late to ask yourself ‘Am I ready to change my life, am I ready to change myself?’. However old we are, whatever we went through, it is always possible to be reborn. If each day is a copy of the last one, what a pity! Every breath is a chance to be reborn. But to be reborn into a new life, you have to die before dying.”—Shams Tabrizi (via shaktilover)
as my relationship progresses I become more and more aware that the practice of love is so much different than the feeling of falling into it. I don’t think romantic love is supposed to feel the same forever. I think it’s a seed you plant, and nurture, and it grows,…
Twenty-four years ago today, December 6, 1989, Marc Lépine murdered fourteen women and wounded ten women. He entered École Polytechnique de Montréal with a Ruger Mini-14 and a hunting knife for the purpose of “fighting feminism” by murdering the female engineering students there. He began his…
"oh, please. you can’t REALLY be in a great mood. there are people out there who just got raises. people just got married. people are being reunited with their families right now. how dare you say you’re happy."
“Female job applicants with children are 44 percent less likely to be hired for a job than are childless women with similar qualifications. Fathers, by contrast, are 19 percent MORE likely to be hired than are comparably qualified men without children.”—
"Getting a Job: Is there a Motherhood Penalty?" American Journal of Sociology, 2007 (via checkprivilege)
omg at the mall today i saw this straight couple right and they were like holding hands and everything it was sO CUTE! straight couples are so brave and cute wow i love straights. i took a photo of them behind their back and showed it to my cishet friend to prove im not heterphobic. then i posted it online without them knowing so that everyone else could see how CUTE and BRAVE they are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i love straight people